I have noticed that people seem to have no idea of how to refer to or talk to women, if they do not know the woman's name.

Let me offer a few guidelines.

When addressing a female it is not necessary to mention her station, age, marital status or looks. All of these can get you into trouble. If you say, "Hey lady" she might think that you are objectifying her. If a man says, "Listen girl" she could think that you are inferring that she has no experience. If you say, "Madam" what she hears is old.

There is one term that will never get you into trouble. This magical term is "Miss." Women will gladly answer to "Miss" no matter what their marital status, age or looks are. You can address a women of ninety as "Miss" and she will not only accept it, she will think that you are kind, intelligent and experienced. Mrs. Jones may be happily married but when she is not with her husband she will delight in being called "Miss." "Miss" is the secret word that never fails to get you points.

Also, "You look good in that outfit" will be taken as "You look good in that outfit but not in the other outfits you wear. The correct way to say it is, "You make that outfit look great!" "You look good" is better than, "You look good, today", as opposed to some other day.

Furthermore, women and men do not want to hear who they look like even if the person, you think they look like, is rich, young and beautiful! If you insist on being one of these idiots who go around telling people who they look like, here is how to do it.

"You look like Nicole Kidman" will get you into trouble. Believe it or not, the women you are addressing may not have a high opinion of Nicole Kidman, "Nicole Kidman looks like you" will be accepted! "You look like Brad Pitt" is wrong! "Brad Pitt reminds me of you" will be tolerated.

If you want to avoid trouble all together, it is wise to never infer that one person looks like someone else. You see, we all want to believe that we look like ourselves which is always closer to the truth! Think about it. When have you felt good about someone telling you that you look like someone else?

And I am

Kip Addotta

Tags: Women And How You Refer To Them

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